How I Became Calmer in a Critical Situation

When the doctor told me my dad had around two weeks left to live,

I panicked.

I felt scared.

Lost.

Uncertain.

My mind kept thinking,

“What do I do now?”

I think part of the panic came from not knowing what would happen next.

But slowly, I became calmer.

How?

First, I accepted the reality.

There was no more treatment.

I couldn’t change the situation.

That acceptance reduced a lot of my inner fighting.

Then I started preparing the next steps.

Informing relatives and friends.

Preparing for the funeral.

Thinking about what needed to be done.

The more I accepted reality and knew what to do next,

the calmer I became.

I realised uncertainty was creating a lot of my fear.

Now, even though I still feel really sad,

my mind feels clearer.

I’m focusing more on being present with Dad,

instead of fighting reality inside my head.

Reflection questions:

• Am I focusing on meaningful moments, or only worrying?

• How do I want to look back on this stage of my life later?